I started with the Aspect about Commitment, because if you can’t find your way towards making a commitment, this book may be an enjoyable read (I hope), but it will be of little use to you with your problem.  I stress commitment because I remember myself.  I’d find something new and shiny and think “Okay, this is what’s going to break me out of my relapse cycle.”  When that shiny object didn’t show results within a few days, I went looking for the next shiny object.  I believe this is classic relapser thinking.

The thing to ask yourself is this: “will this be just another one of those countless shiny objects that was tried briefly in the past, but that hasn’t worked?”  Of all of the plans and methods we used to get abstinent, what was the one common denominator?  You and your method of approaching the task at hand.  I go back to our habit of being the kid in the marshmallow contest that grabs the one marshmallow right away.  All important things in life take time to work, and if we simply give up when it doesn’t produce that one marshmallow, we want to quit.  Recovery in many ways is the opposite of immediate gratification.

Stick with it, it will be worth it.

It is important to take a little time to look at the big picture.  Why do you want to be abstinent?